Loyalty. Is there a person out there who doesn’t want somebody in their corner giving them encouragement and constant support? Loyalty is worth fighting for. If loyalty is a desirable trait in others, wouldn’t it follow that it is important in ourselves? Are we loyal to ourselves? In a world where people get so much affirmation from social media, it seems almost impossible not to filter life to meet other’s expectations. On average I probably snap about 5 pictures of my kids a day. Sometimes the kids are being cute, sometimes they are being naughty, and other times I just want to catch that memory. I constantly catch myself evaluating them for their postability. The check list is usually something like this:
Is the house clean? (read: Have I cropped out the clutter, moved the bread crust from breakfast off the couch, and thrown away the latest round of diapers?)
Are we doing something fun? (read: Everyone should know that I do fun things and they should want to be my friends.)
Do the kids look adorable? (read: Have I dressed them yet? If its before noon don’t count on it.)
As I edit my reality, I am losing the opportunity to be loyal to myself. I am realizing more and more that as I edit myself into a mold, I lose the opportunity to connect with the people around me. Being around perfection is exhausting. Having a continual reminder of all the things I could and should be doing better doesn’t make me want to know a person better, seeing flaws and struggles that I can understand and relate to does! Authenticity invites others to know my real struggles, joys, and triumphs.
Today choose one way to be more authentic. I am confident it will lay the foundation toward more meaningful, lasting relationships.
(If you are willing, consider posting what you choose to do!)