My brother and I recently had a discussion about the connotation of different words. If I say I am coaching somebody to help them have better self esteem, that is a completely acceptable approach. If I say I am training somebody to get this same result, it all of a sudden becomes an entirely different matter. Somehow, if I say I am training you, it takes out your personal choice in the matter. All of a sudden you are just one of Pavlov’s dogs.
Training, however, is not a negative thing. Training is what allows us to reach our potential in any number of situations. If you want your toddler to start using the toilet, do you simply put them in a pair or underwear and tell them from now on they are to stay dry and use the toilet? No. You have to give them the tools they need to be successful. This includes showing them what to do and then following up to ensure they understand what is expected. If you want to compete in any sort of athletic event, you don’t just show up and hope everything will work for the best. You work, and you work hard to reach your peak performance.You work hard to meet your own expectations. When you start a new job, do you just sit down and start doing exactly what was expected of you? No. You don’t have the capability yet because you don’t know the expectations.
We don’t rise to the level of our expectations, we fall to the level of our training. -Archilochos
Training gives us the capability to meet expectations. If you have expectations in your life that you don’t feel you are currently reaching, take a personal inventory. What is one thing that you would like to be moving toward? Make one goal. What is one thing you can repeatedly do, that will move you toward your goal? Choose to be your own personal trainer. Put in enough work that your training aligns with your expectations.