I’m married to a self proclaimed second guesser. If he buys the red car, then a week later he’ll wonder if he would have been happier with the blue car. If he takes one job then three month later he thinks about the opportunities he MIGHT have missed by not taking the other. He isn’t unsatisfied with the things he has, he just wonders if their might be something better. There are websites, articles, YouTube clips, blogs, vlogs, podcasts all out there telling us to be present. Telling us to live in the moment and to stop getting distracted by fear, insecurities, technology, and the countless other forces in our lives. How do we do that?
Do you! Last year the Oxford dictionary added FOMO – the fear of missing out. This ties into the spotlight effect I wrote about here. If you are constantly doing things to make sure you are keeping up with everyone else, you are going to burnout. Not only will you burn out, but you lose the chance to learn what makes you happy. Don’t let somebody else’s life set your priorities. Learn how to live decisively without being paralyzed by hesitation.
Don’t get too focused on the past. There is value in learning from your mistakes. Not so much in reliving them.
“You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you don’t stop reading the last one.” -unknown
If we continually beat ourselves up about past mistakes we will never have the emotional/mental space to move toward new outcomes.
Be present. Be Decisive. Be You.