My son, the great negotiator, has recently started using his happiness as currency. “Mom, if nobody plays Ring Around the Rosies with me I will be really sad. Mom, if nobody rides in the back of the truck with me I will be really sad. Mom, if I don’t get a heater in my room I will be really sad.” I heard each of those statements yesterday. The interesting thing about these interactions is he isn’t trying to find a way to be happy about the situation. He is trying to leverage his potential sadness into getting what he wants.
I once read that happiness is like a rainbow. The more you chase it the further away it seems. At the time, I didn’t agree. I thought that if you were willing to put in the work to find happiness that you would be successful. However, over the years as I’ve pondered this idea, I’ve come to see why this is true. If you are always chasing the rainbow of happiness, you are never content with where you are. You aren’t making the best out of what you have. You are certain there is always something better out there. It’s a little bit like FOMO. As you look for happiness somewhere else you cant find it where you are.
The present moment is filled with joy and happiness. If you are attentive you will find it. Thich Nhat Hanh
Look at the now. As you improve on where you stand, the rainbow will come to you.