Somehow, in the world we are living in, we oftentimes feel the need to do it all. To be it all for everybody. As we are in the middle of trying to meet expectations for everyone, we feel overwhelmed but we are certain we can do it. In one of my very first posts, I wrote about a job I was working, and some of the frustrations that came along with it. I was certain I could do this job and do everything else I had committed to as well. Fast forward to last week. I was writing my third proposal in three weeks. My house was a disaster, my kids were on Netflix overload, and my husband wondered if I remembered I was married. I was still certain I could do it all. NEWSFLASH TO ME: I couldn’t. I was trying to do so much that I wasn’t doing anything.
I am a big fan of personal inventories. I think taking a step back and looking at what is and is not working out is extremely beneficial. This weekend it was time for a personal inventory. I realized I needed to give something up. My husband and I have talked about giving this job up multiple times over the years, but I’ve always fought against it. The money was nice, and it was nice to have that connection to people I’d worked with for years. However, the job was no longer worth the day to day sacrifices I was making. I quit.
How many times do we make unnecessary sacrifices? What are you giving up because you think you can do it all? I’ve recently started reading a book about minimizing the distractions in life. The author, Greg Mckeowen, is an advocate for doing less but doing it better. When we make too many priorities, we make no priorities at all. “Only once you give yourself permission to stop trying to do it all, to stop saying yes to everyone, can you make your highest contribution towards the things that really matter.”
It’s not easy to change the mindset of a do-it-aller. However, I can attest, from personal experience, that by giving away some of the extras, you will not only have more time for your real priorities, but you will be happier.