My mom has always been a good example of taking responsibility in situations. If she was in a situation where people were talking negatively about another person she didn’t jump in and pile on. Instead she started pointing out the positives in that person. First, it made it hard to continue to say negative things when she was there pointing out the good. It would stop the negativity in its tracks. Secondly, it made us more cautious in what we said around her. She was the winner twofold. She was a defender of the weak, and she also made it so others wouldn’t talk negatively around her in the future. She dissuaded drama by being positive and looking out for the next guy.
“Show respect even to people who don’t deserve it; not as a reflection of their character, but as a reflection of yours.” Life_Playground
When I read this quote I first off nodded my head in agreement. We show who we really are in our treatment of others. What stood out even more was the first line, show respect even to people who don’t deserve it; that line is missing a crucial qualifier, show respect even to people who YOU don’t THINK deserve it. We have no way of knowing what goes on behind the scenes in the lives of people around us. When we think they are stuck up, they are often times shy. When we think people are belligerent they are often insecure. We don’t get to be the judge of who is deserving of what. We do get to be responsible for how we react.
This isn’t to say that you need to surround yourself with toxic relationships in order to prove you are the better person. Instead, choose to give the person the benefit of the doubt. Try to think about what might cause them to act the way the do, and love them through it. Let people know that you wont be a springboard for negativity and you will be a defender and you will find yourself in a better frame of mind, and more removed from the negativity associated with unnecessary drama.