Yesterday we got a LOT of snow, like close to a foot, a lot of snow. I went outside, fed the dog, brought in the garbage can, and shoveled the walk. I knew I needed to go to the post office to send files to my old company (still not sad I quit.) I decided before loading up the kids I’d make sure I could get out of the driveway and on to the road. As it turns out I couldn’t. Earlier this year I got stuck and called my brother to come rescue me. I knew I could call him if I needed to but my pride didn’t want to. I spent 20 minutes shoveling snow and sand just to get my car unstuck enough that I could get it back in the garage. Luckily, I was able to get it back in and I called off my trip to the post office.
This brought to mind and idea I’ve been thinking about for a while now. Recently my husband went coyote hunting with a buddy. He took his little truck out and it had a hard time in all the mud. He told me he almost got stuck in grass. I laughed at the absurdity of getting stuck in grass, but in the back of my mind I kept thinking about all the times I’ve allowed myself to get stuck in the grass.
You know the grass I’m talking about. The grass that isn’t hurting anybody but you’re certain shouldn’t be there. The grass that should be planted differently, or that somebody else should be mowing. These grasses are all of the little things that add up to slow us down, and stop our progress. The grass of comparison. The grass of disappointment. The grass of irritation. The grass of jealousy and resentment. I could go on and on and on.
We have all been stuck in our own emotions at different times in our lives. This is not only ok, it is good. Getting stuck teaches us how to get out of the mud and move forward. It also teaches us new tricks and helps us avoid similar mistakes in the future. However, getting stuck won’t help you move forward, if you don’t ever try to get your truck out. If every time you get stuck you choose to get out of the truck and leave it stranded until somebody else comes to pull it out, you aren’t giving yourself the chance to grow. You aren’t getting better. You are simply masking your tendency to get stuck. Don’t let someone else dictate how long you are in the mud. Do the work to get out yourself! That being said, sometimes, despite all your best efforts, you can’t get out. By all means CALL THE TOW TRUCK!
Remember, you are responsible for you. Nobody can make you be happy and nobody can make you be sad. They can contribute to how you feel but ultimately it’s your choice! Choose happiness.